Okay, so recently there has been a lot going on in the news with sexual assault and the #Metoo movement with Dr. Ford and Brett Kavanaugh. And I want to talk about it.
First off, Believe Survivors. If that’s the only thing you take from this, believe that.
When I was 17, I had a married man who was at least 60 that lived on my street drive up to me. I was behind my trash and recycling dumpsters, pulling them back up to the back of my house where I lived. I was wearing athletic shorts, a thin jacket zipped up all the way to the top, and flip flops. This man stopped, looked me up and down, and said “If you were 10 years older, I would take you out to dinner.” I can’t tell you how uncomfortable I was.
When I was 18, 30 year old men rolled down their windows next to me at a stoplight and started shouting at me.
When I was 18, I got called a slut and many other horrible terms because I refused to send nudes and I wasn’t interested in them. This happened on more than one occasion.
There are so many other worse stories. And I get that men can get raped and sexually assaulted, it’s just way more uncommon. Dr. Ford has been a light to women that have struggled with their stories.
It’s a scary time for both men and women. But it’s a scarier time for women. I get scared walking to my car on my night shifts. I can’t wear a bikini outside of my backyard in fear. I’m scared to go to the bar alone one day.
I can understand that it’s scary for men to be falsely accused. But let’s be real, it’s pretty unlikely that that’s what happens. I mean yall are literally trying to get Bill Cosby out of jail even after he has been accused of sexual assault and rape by so many women.
There’s a teacher at my high school that is being accused of being a pedophile because he has been texting younger girls and trying to have sex with them. He resigned at his old school for this exact same thing, but the previous school didn’t report him so my old high school hired him not knowing that he liked to prey on young girls which he is doing again.
This climate is scary. Here’s a few books I recommend to learn about rape, why people don’t report, and why you should believe survivors: Girl Made of Stars by Ashley Herring Blake and The Way I Used To Be by Amber Smith.
Watch this video as well: